Aging Parents · Cancer · Family · Grief

Can’t find the words

I have been trying for almost two months to find the words to express how I have been feeling about moving my mother into an assisted living facility. I’ve been failing. I have not had to make any of the hard decisions in this process. I have not been responsible for anything, really. There are… Continue reading Can’t find the words

Aging Parents · Family · Life · Motherhood · Parenting · Teacher

What would you like to do?

I’ve talked before about how I am a fan of the Love and Logic parenting and teaching model. This has given me a lot of tools and phrases to use in difficult situations with kids. The most powerful two are pretty simple, and they are “Bummer!” and “Would you like to hear what some other… Continue reading What would you like to do?

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Why I wish I could draw

I spent the past few days with my mother on a visit to the shore to celebrate Daughter’s birthday. I was struck by so many instances of frustration and sadness in this trip. I could go on and on about how confused my mother was, how she didn’t know who people were every now and… Continue reading Why I wish I could draw

Aging Parents · Anxiety · Cancer · Family · Life · Uncategorized

Getting in trouble

   When I got my first teaching job, I became friends with my teammate. She’s a wonderful woman, retired now, who never ceased to make me laugh. She has an interesting perspective on life which is very different from mine. Being ex-military her outlook is quite unique to me and I enjoy her immensely. I… Continue reading Getting in trouble

Aging Parents · Anxiety · Cancer · Family · Friendship · Life · Marriage

The unbearable hardness of families

Why are families so hard? I know it must be if not universally true then at least universally acknowledged that families can be difficult to deal with. I watch tv and I see it as a recurring theme. For some shows it is the entire premise. So why is it that the people who should… Continue reading The unbearable hardness of families

Aging Parents · Anxiety · Depression · Life · Motherhood · Parenting · Teaching

It’s all in the cards

When I was a student teacher, I was fortunate enough to work with some pretty amazing masters in their classrooms. One of them, a wise and hilariously sardonic intermediate teacher who was nearing the end of her career, noticed my leanings towards anxiety long before I had any clinical diagnosis, and pulled me aside for… Continue reading It’s all in the cards

Aging Parents · Cancer · Grief · Life

Why’d you put that there?

When I was heading out to go spend some time with my mother for her next round of chemotherapy, I knew without thinking too much about it that I would be given things to write about. What I didn’t expect was that I would have things handed to me before I even entered her home. … Continue reading Why’d you put that there?